Relationship Annual Checkup

Relationship Annual Checkup

Nivens and I continue to find ways to reaffirm our commitment. We like to perform an annual checkup on our relationship, testing its emotional health and strength.We provide a list of prescriptives, a personal diagnosis of our current condition. As our union matures, our wants and needs change.

Our relationship health depends on minimizing potential side effects.

Here is my recent checkup:

Things I am:

I am a handful, dramatic, overbearing, stubborn.

I am still mourning the death of a dream.

I am ready for a traditional life.

I am that chick, any chick.

Things I am not:

I am not without flaws. In fact, as the years pass, some seem to get worse

I am not as happy as I seem.

I am not easy.

I am not the same chick you married six years ago.

Things I will:

I will continue to make the most of a less than ideal situation.

I will hold it down, until you can take over.

I will support and encourage you.

I will play my position.

I will love you like none other.

Things I won’t:

I will not make promises I can’t keep.

I will not hide how I feel.

I will not tolerate anything that jeopardizes your freedom.

Things I can’t:

I cannot change the way the world views you.

I cannot be responsible for your happiness but I can continue to do those things that create that feeling for you.

I cannot live on a pedestal. If you continue to put me there, you must promise to catch me when I fall. 

I cannot love you past your pain, but I can love you to a place where your pain is less relevant.

I cannot set you free.

Things I need:

I need you to be patient. I don’t have all the answers.

I need to feel special. It’s leftover residue from not having my dad around. Sorry, you have to clean it up.


Will you accept all these things I am, am not, will, will not, cannot, and need?   As long as you will have me, I am yours. However, if you go back to prison, you are on your own. Love your wife. ~Reesy



What’s in your annual checkup?





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