Nivens and I continue to find ways to reaffirm our commitment. We like to perform an annual checkup on our relationship, testing its emotional health and strength.We provide a list of prescriptives, a personal diagnosis of our current condition. As our union matures, our wants and needs change.
Our relationship health depends on minimizing potential side effects.
Here is my recent checkup:
Things I am:
I am a handful, dramatic, overbearing, stubborn.
I am still mourning the death of a dream.
I am ready for a traditional life.
I am that chick, any chick.
Things I am not:
I am not without flaws. In fact, as the years pass, some seem to get worse
I am not as happy as I seem.
I am not easy.
I am not the same chick you married six years ago.
Things I will:
I will continue to make the most of a less than ideal situation.
I will hold it down, until you can take over.
I will support and encourage you.
I will play my position.
I will love you like none other.
Things I won’t:
I will not make promises I can’t keep.
I will not hide how I feel.
I will not tolerate anything that jeopardizes your freedom.
Things I can’t:
I cannot change the way the world views you.
I cannot be responsible for your happiness but I can continue to do those things that create that feeling for you.
I cannot live on a pedestal. If you continue to put me there, you must promise to catch me when I fall.
I cannot love you past your pain, but I can love you to a place where your pain is less relevant.
I cannot set you free.
Things I need:
I need you to be patient. I don’t have all the answers.
I need to feel special. It’s leftover residue from not having my dad around. Sorry, you have to clean it up.
Will you accept all these things I am, am not, will, will not, cannot, and need? As long as you will have me, I am yours. However, if you go back to prison, you are on your own. Love your wife. ~Reesy
What’s in your annual checkup?