Prisoner’s Wife Etiquette: #1 Thing You Should NEVER Do

Prisoner’s Wife Etiquette: #1 Thing You Should NEVER Do









Let’s cut to the chase. There is etiquette to everything, even in the prisoner’s wife lifestyle. There is a disturbing trend in our community of investigating one other, as in sleuthing out who, what, when, where, and why of crime committed by another woman’s man.

Here is a bit of etiquette more important than what fork goes with what meal. The #1 thing you should NEVER do: DO NOT Google the crime of a person’s husband/boyfriend/partner.

The rule should speak for itself but if a ‘why’ is needed I’ll comply.

You should never do this because:

  1. It’s not your business. The time it takes doing this takes away from time you can work in your own life.
  2. It discriminatory. There is no point to it unless you want to set yourself apart, i. e. You (or your guy) are better.
  3. It’s destructive. Of course, you won’t keep the intel to yourself. Nope, you gonna run tell everyone you know. Set off a gossip mill. Inevitably, hurting its target.
  4. We ask the world not to judge us. We must not judge each other.

Here’s another ‘why’. Ask yourself why you need to know?

We live in a world of nonstop information. Salacious details about others are fodder in times of boredom. Each week there is a new, more horrific crime reported.

Our community first and foremost is about the supporting the partner on the outside. People need to feel comfortable with what they say and who they say it to. Trust is paramount. We need to feel as if those who should understand how and what we feel–do.

When you violate a person’s trust and go beyond the information they want to share by digging into the life of their partner, it smacks of hypocrisy. And, doing this brings a certain mean girl-esque quality which destroys bonds. More importantly, it kills the power of us coming together for a common goal—to change perceptions.

In the new year, let’s resolve to treat each other with respect and quite frankly, mind our own business! Happy New Year!

Did you miss our show on Prisoner’s Wife Etiquette? Listen here.

What are some of your rules of etiquette?

  1. MoiraMoira01-03-2012

    great read and way to live YOUR life…our crime and sentence is none of anyones business…if you have to know, it is better to ask though that in itself is outta line as well. we will share if we feel the need…

  2. CatherineCatherine01-03-2012

    AWESOME!!! Thank you!!!

  3. BeckyBecky01-03-2012

    It should be added to not look up another’s on your state’s prisoner info site either. Public record or not that isn’t right to go snooping on another. This is the main reason mine & my husband’s FB’s use my maiden name instead of his last name. Too many nosey people tryna to find out who, what & where because I won’t tell them. I posted a link to this on my profile and stated how I view asking why someone’s loved one is or was in prison is to me the same as asking someone how much money they make or how often their having sex – none of those things is anyone’s business. On the flip side there’s those who brag on why theirs is inside like they are proud, just as there are those that brag on how much money they make & how often their getting some. some things really shouldn’t be bragged on IMO. – Thanks for the posting :)

  4. Mrs.B1948Mrs.B194801-08-2012

    Love it! Thank you!

  5. Brandi MartinBrandi Martin01-10-2012

    LOVE it!!!! That was one of my favorite shows….it was fun!!!!!!!

  6. RoRo04-30-2012

    I loved reading this and couldn’t agree more. My inmate bf explained to me very early on that the media hypes up their stories to make a definitive “good” guy and a “bad” guy, they often embellish details and don’t necessarily have all of the facts straight. The details and events of a specific case and what is depicted when you google their name is often black and white. Great read, thank you for this!

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